The one where I talk about the one where…

With blog titles that usually begin with the words ‘The one…’ you might have already guessed that I’m a fan of the phenomenally successful TV show Friends.

Ten seasons covering 236 episodes were originally aired between 1994 and 2004. Unless you’ve been hibernating in Outer Mongolia, I’m sure you know the premise: the lives and loves of six friends (Chandler, Joey, Monica, Phoebe, Rachel and Ross) who live in New York and frequent their nearby coffee shop, Central Perk. They’re in their mid-20s when the series starts.

I didn’t actually watch Friends from the start although I didn’t watch much TV full stop at the time, preferring to watch films if I had some free time. I think it was probably about season four or five when I was away with work and staying with an old university friend who lived in the area. He and his wife were huge fans and, after expressing shock that I wasn’t, I was jokingly advised that I needed to stay quiet for half an hour while the episode aired, even if I hated every moment. I didn’t hate it. I absolutely loved it and wondered why I’d never watched Friends before.

After that, I didn’t watch Friends on TV but, each time a season ended and the videos came out on a 2-for-1 deal, I’d treat myself. Yes, I did say videos! In later years, I traded the videos for DVDs. Expensive! Kind of negated the savings on the 2-for-1 deal! Although my younger brother (also a huge fan) can’t believe I have several different styles in my box set. To be fair, they’re not aesthetically pleasing all mixed up like that but, as I’d already bought the videos, it was about replacing them with the least expensive DVD set!

Why am I talking about Friends today? Because I recently finished (slowly) working my way through all ten seasons. I can’t remember when I started watching them but it wasn’t a lockdown thing. I think it might have been the very start of the year when I was working crazy hours and struggling to sleep. I couldn’t seem to switch off on an evening but my eyes were too tired to focus on a book so I wondered if watching a couple of episodes of something I’d seen before might be a relaxing wind-down pre-bedtime and hopefully help me sleep better. It did seem to do the trick. And, of course, I couldn’t not work my way through all 236 episodes.

When I watch TV shows and films these days, I can’t help watching them as a writer. After watching the second series of Ricky Gervais’s brilliant Afterlife earlier this year, I actually tweeted him to say how fantastic the writing was. Because it was! Both seasons had brilliantly observed characters, realistic, clever dialogue and absolutely represented life in a way that could have me belly laughing one minute and sobbing the next while marvelling at the genius of the writing.

I’d seen the occasional episode of Friends since I wrote my debut novel but watching all ten seasons as a published author meant I approached them in a different way. I concentrated more on the character arcs, how quirks were emphasised more as the seasons progressed, how themes developed in more depth in later seasons and how the writers would drop in the occasional curveball. I considered the dynamics across the whole group but also the relationships between the different individuals.

If you’re a fan and you’re asked to come up with pairings, you’d immediately think of the romantic pairings of Ross & Rachel and Chandler & Monica, the friendships between Rachel & Monica and Joey & Chandler, and the siblings rivalry between Ross & Monica. But I hadn’t appreciated quite how many scenes Rachel shared with Joey or Phoebe and how close Phoebe and Joey were. And I hadn’t appreciated how many sensitive moments Joey had and how much good advice he gave.

What I also found myself focusing on was secondary characters and the impact they had on the friendship dynamics, whether they were recurring characters or one-off guest appearances. I hadn’t noticed before how many episodes Gunther appears in before he actually speaks. I hadn’t appreciated quite how many times Janice reappears.

I have to give so much credit to the writers for the way they maintained storylines for six main characters throughout 10 seasons. When writing a series of novels, it can be challenging enough to keep one or two main characters ‘busy’. The thought of doing this for six gives me palpitations!

I also marvelled at the slick way in which guests appeared, particularly those who were from one of the character’s pasts. The fact that a friend or relative had never been mentioned before made no difference; they just seemed to smoothly fit in. A few of my absolute favourites are:

  • Brad Pitt (married to Jennifer Aniston at the time) appearing as Ross’s former schoolfriend who’d formed the ‘I hate Rachel Green’ club with him and still hating Rachel
  • Julia Roberts (who was dating Matthew Perry at the time of being booked for the cameo) wreaking her revenge on Chandler who’d humiliated her at school
  • Denise Richards appearing as Monica and Ross’s cousin, Cassie and everyone finding her irresistible, especially when she tosses her hair (and Barry White starts playing)

As for who my favourite friend is, I would have always proclaimed Chandler but, having watched the seasons back to back, it’s a close-run thing now between Chandler and Rachel. I love her character arc from being spoilt and selfish to being a really caring individual while still maintaining her personality quirks.

Watching a superbly-written series like this can’t fail to benefit my own writing and I think there are some great lessons to learn about the use of secondary and minor characters.

I was sad when I got to the end and I’m sure I’ll watch them all again in years to come. Life is so much better with Friends in it 🙂

Are you a Friends fan? Who’s your favourite ‘friend’? Which cameo did you enjoy the most? What’s your favourite episode? What did you think of the plotting / writing /dialogue /characterisation? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Big hugs

Jessica xx

10 thoughts on “The one where I talk about the one where…

  1. Ooo, I love Friends and your take on it as a writer is interesting. The more I learn about plot and structure, the more I seem to be able to predict exactly what’s coming next in a show. It drives my family bonkers! Phoebe is my favourite btw 😊 xx

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    • I’m terrible for doing that too and it does often take away the enjoyment so I must stop! Phoebe’s fabulous. I love it when she changes her name to Princess Consuela Banana-hammock (probably spelt that wrong) and has no idea what a banana-hammock is. Classic Pheobe xx

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    • Am I allowed to say they’re all my favourites? For very different reasons. What I love best about it is still finding it funny even watching it for the umpteenth time. And when Rhi or I speak the next line at the same time before the actors do because we know it so well! I also love how they dealt so sensitively with Monica and Chandler’s fertility issues, yet still having humour in there. I can’t imagine ever ‘going off’ Friends.

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  2. Oh God, I absolutely LOVE Friends! My favourite Friend changes with every episode I think, but overall I do have a soft spot for Rachel. And Monica makes me howl. And Phoebe is hilarious. And Chandler is so witty. And Ross with that fake tan!! And Joey’s enormous appetite and special expanding trousers for eating the Thanksgiving turkey all by himself… Okay, I can’t choose a favourite.
    I absolutely agree with the comment above about the U2 song. I can NEVER hear that without thinking of Rachel. Weird isn’t it, after all these years?
    I think I might have to start watching from the beginning again…

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    • I highly recommend it, Sharon. Such happy viewing and you do notice different things watching it all the way through. That fake tan episode is hilarious. Mississippi! And the one with his super-weight teeth too. And Joey with the meat sweats. Oh my goodness, such brilliantly-observed comedy xx


  3. Well, here’s an admission….I never watched an episode! My daughter was a huge fan so I did encounter snippets but didn’t think it was for me. Mind you, I thought the same about Cold Feet and only watched when it was relaunched after a gap of years and years and then I loved it, so never say never.

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    • I love Cold Feet but that’s another one I never watched at the time either. Hubby introduced me to that but we’re talking when the originals were on. I’m really impressed that they were able to make the new seasons so good for so many seasons. Thing is, if you do try Friends, that’s a lot of binge-watching waiting for you! But very easy viewing and you’d be amazed at how quickly you can get through them if you try 2-3 a night just before bed 🙂


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